She Who Fears

A Christian lifestyle blog that exists to glorify Jesus, encourage community, and build a healthy fear of the Lord

Social Media Siesta

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The perfect mom. Picture her. You know, the mom with the happy kids, clad in insta-shop apparel, whose makeup (and eyebrows) are done. Her hair is washed and she's standing in her incredible kitchen, which, by the way, is also incredibly clean too, and it's got those pretty, marble countertops? Somewhere in that photo is a big ol' fiddle leaf fig tree that's totally alive and healthy. She seems to be doing it all. She's eating well and making it to the gym and she's got those one shoes and that hat and she wears her baby in that sling. That mom. Either she's hired a photog or her husband is just an instagram husband and he always gets the shot of her mid laugh -- I don't know. But you know her. You follow like three [or thirty] of them.

And then theres you -- or, well, theres me. I haven't had my eyebrows done since I got married (five years ago). I wash my hair on Saturday and water manages to touch my body on other days too if I raise my arm and turn around at the same time and I realize I'm starting to smell. The house that we rent has popcorn ceilings and a dark kitchen. I have some houseplants, but the instagram-worthy ones I seem to kill in like, a week. We usually swing through a fast food joint for dinner because even after a year with twins I still haven't figured out how to get dinner going by five most nights. I don't have the shoes or that hat and I have the wrong baby wearing apparatus and my husband, although pretty pro at social media, thinks I look lovely in every photo he takes and so no, he didn't get the mid-laugh shot.

And so clearly, I'm not doing it right. I'm not a good mom or wife worthy of praise because my life doesn't reflect the golden instagram standard. I become a slave to this image of what a mother should look like and do according to instagram instead of being a slave to Christ, whose burden is light, looking to the Bible for Truth, and seeking the Holy Spirit for wisdom and direction. 

And that’s when you know you need to step away from whatever it is that is stealing you from joy and keeping you from thriving. 


So, I stepped away from Instagram and from Facebook. While I do miss my online friends, I have been taking time to dwell on “ whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable”. I have been taking time to be still before the King of Kings. I have been taking time to get on the floor with my three tiny humans and drink in their amazing qualities. I have been taking time to be my husband’s best friend and biggest support system. I have been taking time to rest — to thrive in my gifts and callings and to have my joy restored.

And quite frankly, sweet mama, I would encourage you to do the exact same thing. 

Teeth Whitening For the Holidays

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So, if I'm being completely transparent with you here, I've never been totally confident in my smile. My bottom teeth are crowded and recently I just had a baby tooth pulled (yes, I still have baby teeth) that never had an adult tooth grow in under it. My best friend is a dental hygienist and I wouldn't even let her look into my mouth despite her tooth infatuation!

When Smile Brilliant approached me about their whitening system, you could only imagine my excitement that I could totally love my smile again as well as the relief I felt that I wouldn't need anybody to look into my mouth to do it since it all takes place in your own home! 

*spoiler alert: you'll want to read to the end of this post*

all images c/0 sirberry

all images c/0 sirberry

And guys, this opportunity happened just in time for family photos season! Despite the fact that my two year old had a fresh haircut scheduled and the twins have had their outfits picked out for weeks, I really hadn’t done anything to prepare myself — cue in Smile Brilliant!

This whitening system is literally the same exact experience you’d have whitening with a dentist, but you get to do it in your own home, on your own time, at a fraction of the cost!

The process:

First you receive your initial tray kit where you make your custom molds. Once you send those back to headquarters, they make your custom fitted trays and send them right back to you. From that point, you can start whitening!


I always started whitening right after dinner because you want about 4 hours to whiten and desensitize if you’re doing max amount of time for both processes.  

While whitening I would get all the kids ready for bed and tucked in, clean up the kitchen and house for the evening, and then either plop on the couch for my weekly Grey’s fix or work on homework.  

I’d finish whitening around 10 each night which was right before my bedtime (perfect — no chance to stain my freshly whitened chomps).  

And that's it. Literally, so simple. 

Just put the trays in and go about your normal, multitasking life!


And guess what!! After just a few applications, my teeth are noticeably whiter — something that I can be excited about documenting via family photos. Cue the Christmas card designing and sending!!


I absolutely recommend this system to anyone that wants whiter teeth and I’m extremely excited to be able to give a kit away to one of my readers so that they can have beautiful, pearly whites for their family photos as well!

this giveaway is for a $139 smile brilliant credit. it will close 11/27/17 and is open to usa, uk, AUSTRALIA + canadian residents. hurry and ENTER Via the link below!!

And for those of you that just can't wait, or need more than one kit -- use code shewhofears10 for 10% off!

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