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Cloth Diaper 102

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So, if you're wondering, "102?" well, that's because I wrote a post a while ago on cloth diapering. Since then, I've added two more babies to our world of diaper duty and I've learned a whole lot more. I also frequently get asked about cloth diaper stuff and things via Instagram and so instead of writing it all out each time, I wanted a convenient place to point people to. So, all that to say, if you're in the business of learning about cloth diapers, sit back, grab a notepad, and read on.

(Also, I am in no way an expert when it comes to this stuff. I just do what works for my family. I highly recommend visiting your local cloth diapering retailer, connecting with cd mamas online or in person, or even emailing customer service of your diaper company for more in depth questions and trouble shooting -- honestly they're glad to help!)


DIAPERING A NEWBORN (OR TWO):

+ The first question you're gonna ask is "how many diapers do I actually need?" I think the recommendation is like 24 diapers per babe. With the twins we had about 54 All-In-One style diapers (and we didi diaper laundry just about every other day for the first few weeks *insert crying emoji*).

+ Next I usually get asked what kind of diapers we use/like. With Mattheus we mainly used prefolds and covers. It's a very economical option and honestly you never have to worry about leaks. The only drawback was the HUGE fluff butt, but when you spend fifty bucks once and diaper your baby for four months, a big butt really aint no thang.

+ With the twins, I wanted to simplify so we ended up only going with the AIO (all-in-one) style diaper. They're just like a disposable diaper with snaps that you wash and reuse instead of throwing away. We used a combination of GroVia's, Lil'Joeys, Luludews, and THX. I bought all of these diapers second-hand, which is a completely different and totally awesome thing in itself. 

+ "How much does it cost?" Well, that depends on how you want to do it. With Mattheus, I spent about $50. For all of the twins' diapers I spent closer to $300. You can buy all of your diapers new or you can buy them all used. There are so many things that factor into it. But in the end, no matter how you decide to do it, you pay the initial amount ONE TIME up front and then you're set. Disposable diapers add up quickly.

+ For a little more info on cloth diapering a newborn, GroVia has a great page you can visit.


DIAPERING BEYOND A NEWBORN:

+ So, I love GroVia. This is not a sponsored post. I just love the diapers. The AI2 system is so genius and simple and just fab. It's a one size diaper so as soon as the babes aren't fitting in newborn diapers anymore, they go into these. Right now I have three completely different sized babes in these diapers. They rule.

+ Our stash now consists of about 28 shells, 54 or so inserts, about 6 cotton boosters, one ONE diaper, and some prefolds.

+ FOR NIGHTTIME: Mattheus and Kuyper get a cotton hybrid plus a tri-folded prefold. Kinsley gets a cotton hybrid diaper plus a cotton booster.


WIPES:

+ I use cloth wipes in a warmer.

+ I used to make my own solution (water, baby shampoo, lavender EO, tea tree EO) but now I use Baby Bits. I'm all about convenience these days and it doesn't get more convenient than that! I was a little worried that it would become expensive to buy the solution instead of me making it, but I honestly think it's cheaper this way because I'm not using my own oils. I am also only on my second pack of them and the twins are almost five months old!


WASHING:

+ I would go into detail here about my wash routine but I don't want to confuse you. Our routines will be different. Instead I'll give you some pointers.

+ Breast-fed baby poop doesn't need to be rinsed off before throwing the diaper into your dirty paint. Food-fed baby poop does. Make it easy on yourself and buy a diaper sprayer attachment (everyone will assume this is a bidet) and a Spray Pal.

+ Wash your diapers every two to three days.

+ Use enough soap (but not too much).

+ IF YOU ARE UNSURE, CONTACT YOUR DIAPER RETAILER OR MANUFACTURER'S CUSTOMER SERVICE. They will help you figure out a routine that WILL clean your diapers without ruining them and without ruining your warranty (if bought new).

+ STAY AWAY FROM FLUFF LOVE. If you cloth diaper you will hear about this Facebook group. They are "strip" happy in my opinion. STOP STRIPPING YOUR DIAPERS ALL THE TIME. SEE POINT ABOVE.

+Honestly, it's hardly any different than all of your other laundry and simple is better. For a little more info, visit this page

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40 Weeks

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As many of you know, our first son was born nearly two years ago and we welcomed him earth side via a water birth in our living room after 30 hours of labor. This story, like that one, is written with as many little details as I can recall because I want to remember it -- all of it -- as long as I live. If you're not into blood and poop and well, birth, please don't read on.

When we found out that we were pregnant again, it was no question that a homebirth was exactly what we wanted to do again. 

We went to our prenatal appointments regularly and were happy with how quickly and easy this pregnancy seemed in comparison to the first. 

At twenty weeks along we went for our first ultrasound and were completely shocked when the tech showed us TWO babies. We cried tears of shock and joy and fear and love all day. 

I remember being scared upon finding out I was pregnant with twins because I knew it meant I could have to transfer my care to the hospital. Fortunately things continued to go really smoothly with my pregnancy and we were able to stay under the care of our trusted and beloved midwife as well as go forth with our planned homebirth as long as we made it to 36 weeks and the babies were in good positions for it. 


Fast forward to Christmas. My family was dreadfully sick and bed ridden, but we made it to 36 weeks. Despite how hard pregnancy began to feel, I asked the babies to wait to come until I was healthy again. 

Pregnancy became harder and harder each day in those last weeks. My belly grew, my feet and legs swelled, my body ached, my appetite dwindled, my toddler needed me, I wasn't sleeping, I was constantly in false labor, and the anticipated twins weren't coming. As my due date approached I began feeling desperate for them to make their arrival. 

After a sleepless night of painful contractions, I got up on January 26th both grateful and sad that I had made it to 40 weeks gestation. 

The family got ready for the day, headed to our favorite local coffee shop for a little pick me up, then to Costco for a speedy and much needed grocery run, and finally to what would be our last prenatal appointment. 

On our way home my contractions picked up in intensity but were still irregular so I just assumed more false labor, although I vividly remembered the tightness I felt in my back from my labor with Mattheus. 

At that point Miles headed to work and I made Mattheus some lunch. We played for a bit and the contractions stayed. I put him down for his nap and the contractions still persisted. I began to time them and they were a consistent ten minutes apart and about a minute each. I brought my sleeping boy to my room and cuddled him through his nap. My contractions stayed. I asked Miles to come home, called my mom to ask her to come get Mattheus when she got off work, and let my midwife, Diane and doula, Ashley know what was going on. The babies were coming. They had to be. 

Contractions stayed consistent and by the time my mom left with my Bub, they were about 5-6 minutes apart and 45 seconds in length. Diane came over around 6:30 and advised me to rest, so I did for a few hours. My contractions dissolved away nearly completely. Diane left and I let Ashley know she didn't need to come over. 

I felt sad and discouraged. I showered and got back into bed around 10:15pm. 

An hour later, things picked up fast. My contractions came back stronger, closer, and more consistent than before. Miles called Diane and Ashley and told them to return. 

I continued to labor in my room on the yoga ball as our assistant midwife, Suzanne, and Diane's assistant arrived. Miles and the midwives prepared for birth and Ashley stayed by my side as labor progressed. Every few contractions the midwives would have me lay on the bed to check babes' heart rates. This was probably the worst part of my labor as my contractions would suddenly become very intense and cause me to vomit. 

After a few hours of laboring there Miles asked again if I wanted to get into the tub. I avoided it the first time for fear that I would become too relaxed and things would slow down again, but I did want to at this point. The water felt SO good. The immediate relief you feel when your body enters is so amazing. An immense amount of pressure is taken away from your aching torso as being in the water lifts your belly and body. Plus, the warmth of the water is both soothing and relaxing. 

I continued to work through contractions as calmly as possible with the help of Miles and Ashley. I don't think any of us realized how far along I had progressed because of how much more peacefully I was able to deal with my contractions this time around. Whenever I would start to breathe too fast Ashley would remind me to take slow, deep breaths and instead of trying to say anything or make any noise this time, I remembered to save my energy for the pushing. I sang hymns in my head through labor (Great Is Thy Faithfulness, How Deep The Father's Love For Us, and Jesus Paid It All), visualized my contractions as mountains I was able to scale, and repeated birth affirmations in my head. There were even small moments that I would realize I had fallen asleep and been dreaming!

As with Mattheus' birth I was really afraid to poop in the tub and so the point came again when I had Miles take me to the toilet so that I could try and go. I finally had some bloody show and I knew I had been feeling pushy for a few contractions at that point but that it wasn't time. Diane asked if I wanted to be checked and by then, I was ready. 

Miles was nervous that like last time, I would still be only a two or so and become discouraged by the lack of progress, but I was already a nine and my cervix was mostly gone. Since I was out of the tub the midwives checked fetal heart rates again and I puked for what I think was the last time. 

Back to the tub.

I contracted only a couple more times before becoming really pushy. In the middle of one of my contractions I suddenly REALLY had to push and so I did and with the pop of broken waters, Kuyper's head was nearly born. Everyone rushed to the tub at that point. Diane asked if I wanted to feel his head, so I did. With the next push, his head was born. 

For some reason my urge to push disappeared at that point. I felt the burn of having a baby exiting my body and when my next contraction came, instead of pushing into it, I breathed through it. After that my birth team began to encourage me that my baby was almost here and that I needed to push him out. With the next contractions that came, despite not really wanting to push, I did, and at 3:38am on January 27th, Kuyper Shea Brazil was born into his dad's arms. He was 7lbs 11oz. His cord was fairly short so dad held him on my tum until it stopped pulsing and he cut it.

I held Kuyper on my chest for a couple of minutes after that. It was special to hold my sweet son, but I was also still in pain and needed to birth his sister. (This is a complete tangent, but it is the strangest thing to only have one baby in your belly after you've seen and felt it with two for the last nine months!!). Suzanne listened to Kinsley's heart tones. She sounded great and for a moment, everyone thought she had turned to a vertex presentation. We all got excited to potentially have a second water birth, but a quick check from Diane determined that she was still breech. 

And a contraction. It was a great thing that they came back so fast and that Kinsley was ready to be born, too.

Miles took Kuyper and the team helped me out of the water. As I walked back to the bedroom I started to have another contraction and wanted to stop but Suzanne told me I was so strong and to power through back to the room to meet my baby girl. I remember wanting to laugh and cry as I waddle "ran" to my room with the help of so many AS my body was trying to work another baby out of it.

When I made it to the room they asked me to lay on my back and, despite that being the plan all along, I wanted to cry. Laying on my back hurt and made me throw up every time I had done it previously in the night. I did it anyways. Then things became serious. 

Although Kinsley's heart tones sounded great, my urge to push had disappeared completely. With one tiny contraction I was able to give a little push. 

I heard Miles ask my midwife, "Is that okay?"

Diane responded, "Yes. She (Kinsley) has pooped in the sack."

I trusted Diane but also knew that Kinsley pooping could be a sign of distress and became anxious. Diane asked if I was ready to push. I wasn't. 

With my next contraction, despite not wanting to push, I was able to a little bit. 

Suzanne checked Kinsley's heart - she sounded good. 

However, there was a pause from Diane and my husband. Diane said, "Okay Jordyn. I'm seeing the cord now..."

I deflated into the pillow. The one scenario that called for a hospital transfer was if the umbilical cord prolapsed. Ashley put her hand on my head and told me everything was going to be okay, and Miles reassured me as well. 

Diane was serious. "Jordyn, we need this baby out in two pushes. Okay?"

I had no urge. I was scared, and I didn't know what to do in that moment. My fear turned to confidence when Ashley began telling me how to move forward. She said, "Jordyn, when your next contraction comes don't let the air out. Take a big breath, hold it, and I'm going to count to ten. Push the entire time, then let the air out."

In the next few seconds my contraction came. Miles and Suzanne held my legs. Ashley helped me hold my chin to my chest, counted me down from ten, and told me what to do and that I COULD do it. Diane told me I was doing well and to keep doing it. Without feeling any more contractions, we did it over again one more time. With no contraction and no urge to push, Ashley repeated her 10 second count and I pushed as hard as I could. That moment, Kinsley Joy Brazil entered the world via a footling breech birth at 4:30am. She was 6lbs 13oz. I cried and praised God for safely bringing my daughter into the world. She was placed on my stomach. Miles (who was crying uncontrollably at this point) held me and kissed me over and over. Everyone in the room was relieved. A huge, tense blanket was lifted and everyone celebrated. Kinsley cried. She didn't need oxygen. She was so, so good. 

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After delivering the babies I delivered two placentas that were just slightly fused and slightly calcified (When I delivered Mattheus in 2015, his had just started to calcify as well). It didn't hurt at all like it did with Mattheus' birth. I was relieved. 

I had quite a bit of bleeding immediately afterwards but two shots of pitocin, apple juice, and a yogurt helped stop the bleeding and put some life back into me. 

I tore again this time, although not as bad, and so Diane stitched me up while I held Miles' hand and gazed at my babies. 

I remember feeling like a million bucks immediately after Mattheus was born and into the next day still riding that high. I felt like I'd been hit by a bus this time and was even a little sad that I hadn't really had a chance to hold and bond with my babies yet.

But that came.

When I was done being stitched up, Miles helped me shower and then crawl into bed with my two newborn babies. I nursed them and got to really see them and hold them for the first time. They look completely different. Kinsley looks exactly like a smaller version of newborn Mattheus. Kuyper is all his own. I am smitten.


I feel extremely blessed to have had my babies at home. I know that under the care of the hospital it's likely that I wouldn't have carried my babies to term or been able to have a vaginal birth at all. I praise God for the experience and wisdom of each of the women on my birth team and all of their hard work in safely bringing my babies into the world. Mostly I am thankful for a husband who encourages me, supports me, and believes in me more than I do myself. 

If you have any questions at all about the births of any of my babies or any of my birth team, go ahead and email me! I do have two newborns and a toddler so it may take a bit to get back to you, but I promise that I will. 

My doula sent this to me and I'll end with it too. I hope that my birth story has encouraged you in "proving that when birth is uninterrupted anything is possible:

You CAN carry twins full term

You CAN have twins at home 

You CAN have a water birth 

You CAN deliver a breech baby"

Don't let your provider tell you anything about your power or capabilities. If they don't believe in you, find people who do. 

 

Learn more about my midwife Diane by clicking here, and my Doula Ashley by clicking here.  

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My One Year Old Boy

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We had such a fantastic time celebrating Mattheus' first birthday party. Here are some snapshots of the afternoon!

Here is the link to the template for the mini party hats, just in case you wanted it. Just beware though, they are kind of a lot of work. If you're making like eight of them, no biggie -- 24? Maybe reconsider being a DIY'er. 

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A Haitus

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You guys.

I miss blogging.

I feel like I've never been busier in my life, but I popped over here and felt this huge hole in my heart. Okay, I'm exaggerating a little; but, I do miss this creative outlet. 

I'm telling myself that I'm going to post here more often. Don't hold me accountable, but we'll see.

I'll start with an update right now.


So, I basically have a toddler now. Mattheus will be one in about two weeks. He is such a joy! He recently took his first steps, he babbles non-stop, and has the most awesome little personality. It has been an insanely hard year learning how to be a mother, yet I wouldn't trade it for anything, as I have experienced more of God's grace than ever before.

We also moved about two weeks ago. Same city—different neighborhood. I am in love with our new little house and it has been a blast turning it into “home”. We have a great backyard and I can’t wait to start a garden and build us a clothesline as soon as it stops raining.

Miles quit the corporate thing a few months ago and opened a branch of an agency here (that was originally started by some friends in WY). He has been incredibly busy and is having the best time working for himself with friends. 

Miles and two of his business partners also bought a gym here in Reno. It’s crazy cool that we own a gym! I never saw myself getting into crossfit, but I absolutely love it and am even considering a competition in July!

Steel + Twine is totally a thing again and despite not advertising myself much (or at all), I am staying pretty consistently busy, which has been very fun.

Oh! And I’m heading to a family reunion this weekend. It’s a twelve hour drive. I will have Mattheus. I’m semi freaking out but I can’t wait at the same time. Any road-trip with a one year old tips you’ve got to throw my way?

I hope this update has been fun for you — I probably won’t be back here until after Mattheus’ puppy-themed party, but I will be back! With photos! ;)

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10 Ways You Can Participate in Dressember -- Kinda.

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I get it; maybe you’re not a dress person, or maybe you’re a dude (Hey! Some guys do it too!), but whatever the reason, you just don't want to commit to a month of dress wearing. No biggie, there are still other ways to join in on the action! Here’s a quick list of ten ways you can participate in this Dressember:

1. Encourage others to join

If you don’t want to wear the dress, encourage your friends to! The more people that are participating in Dressember, the more people will hear about and be able to donate to Dressember. Win-win!

2. Donate

This one is kind of a no brainer, but if you want to participate in Dressember, whether you wear a dress or not, you do so by rallying donations. Give some money and make a difference.

3. Partner with a Dressember-ette or a team of them

Consider “sponsoring” a certain Dressember advocate, or even finding a team to partner with and let them know that you are doing so! Tell people about what they are doing and help them to reach (and exceed!) their monetary goal!

4. Get social media happy

Share away on your social media outlets about the realities of human trafficking and how Dressember works to combat it. Using hashtags like #dressember, #humantrafficking and #youcandoanythinginadress are easy ways to reach a lot of people to connect with either to sponsor or just to encourage! Also an easy way to share with your followers and circles about what Dressember is!

5. Research

Did you know that there are more slaves right now than there ever has been in the history of the world? Educate yourself on the matter of human trafficking. I promise that it will come you to act in some shape or form.

6. Encourage those that are participating

Dressember may sound easy, but after two years of participating, I can promise you that it isn’t. Sounds silly, but sometimes you just want to put on something other than a dress, especially if you live where it is cold in December. Reach out to those that are participating and let them know that you are following their journey and rooting them on. Thank them for being selfless and advocating for the inherent dignity of those who are oppressed. Thank them for being a voice for the voiceless and maybe even help them with their campaigning!

7. Pray

Pray for those trapped in slavery. Pray for IJM & A21. Pray for the Dressember foundation and for the Dressember-ettes. Pray for freedom. Pray for it all. There is more than I can list in one post that needs to be drenched in prayer, but please don’t forget to be praying. It’s probably the most important thing on this list.

8. Buy the Dressember Dress

For you, for your mom, for a friend, to donate… “The Dressember + Elegantees dress was ethically made in Nepal. Since the best way to reduce trafficking in a developing country is by reducing poverty, Elegantees has developed a sewing center in Nepal, where women rescued from trafficking are offered a dignified job at a fair wage. Demand for this dress will potentially create even more jobs for women wanting to work in Elegantees' sewing center.”

9. Spread the word.

Even though Dressember is gaining popularity, it never hurts to tell people about it! There are even a ton of people that have no idea that human trafficking is even a thing. Send out emails. Text your coworker. Take your brother to coffee. Tell that lady at the park. Just talk about it.

10. Consider joining next year.

Dressember is all about stepping up and out of your comfort zone. I hope that next year you will consider dressing up (Get it? I’m hilarious.) and advocating with us. I wasn’t going to participate this year, but I’m so glad that I decided to! What a joyful way to shine a bright light into such a dark place, just by putting on a dress and saying, “Hey. I’m here. I see you and I’m doing something about it.”

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Dressember

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I wasn't going to participate in Dressember this year. It's something I've done for the last two years and this year, for purely selfish reasons, I just wasn't going to.

I'm pretty sure I've said it before, but despite being a blogger, I'm actually a fairly introverted person. I especially have a hard time asking people for money; in fundraising, it's sort of all about asking people for money.

So, there I was, sitting in the nursery, rocking a sleeping Mattheus and browsing Instagram, mind made up that I would enjoy my December in pants, when the Dressember account posted this:

Ok. I get it.

And then, as if that wasn’t enough of a punch in the gut, a friend text me about twenty minutes later, explaining how she was just so excited to join me in Dressember this year. 

“Well isn't that convenient, because I’m not doing Dressember this year,” I thought.

I thought, but long story short, I am participating.

But woah, wait, it doesn’t end there. I’m not only participating, I’ve rallied together a whole team of ladies to participate with me!

Introducing, and drumroll please….

photo: Jeremy Brandt || edit + lettering: me

photo: Jeremy Brandt || edit + lettering: me

Yes, our team name is indeed “Pants Free to Set Them Free” and yes, you can totally join it.

The more women that rally with me, the more excited I get for Dressember. 

Of course, it’s not actually about me at all though—and I get that. It’s just really encouraging to be able to link arms (even if it’s just virtually and not physically) with a bunch of other women and say, “Hey, that whole human trafficking thing? Not ok.” 

If you’re interested in learning more about the what + why behind Dressember, you can do so by clicking right here. After that, if you’ve decided that you’d like to join the battle, go forth with registering and consider joining my team! (Just saying, we have an Instagram chat that’s pretty legit). Also, I have a Pinterest board just for Dressember if you’re thinking, “I have no clue how to wear a dress every day of one whole month.” Because, let’s face it: that ain’t easy.

Have you participated in Dressember before? Are you doing it this year?

 

 

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So I realized...

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I never even shared any of my maternity photos, newborn photos, or nursery photos! How lame am I? Haha

Mattheus is such a big boy and is getting so busy! I honestly can't believe how quickly he is growing and how much he has changed in these few short months!

Are you down to reminisce together? Here are a few of our maternity photos, shot by the always amazing Jared Emerson Photography

We really just wanted something laid back and easy and fun. We ended up going on a quick walk around the block and then came back to the house, changed into our lounge clothes and hung out while our buddy snapped some photos.

I really love being able to look back on this sweet time of waiting in our lives. I remember feeling so ready to hold Mattheus in my arms (aka -- DONE being pregnant) by the time we took these photos. But I look back at them now and totally miss rubbing that huge baby bump! Haha

Did you take maternity photos? Do you plan to? Why or why not?

Ps. Next week look for our nursery "tour" ;)

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